How Your Victim Mode Hampers Your Impact

The extent that you are doing victim-thinking is the extent that you create your own suffering.

As entrepreneurs, we are creators. We choose to deliberately co-create the expansion of the Universe. We give up the security of a monthly salary to generate our own income with our gifts. We have big dreams of making a significant impact on the world.

Yet, as humans we also have a victim side that surfaces when things don't go smoothly according to plan. On an intellectual level, we know that the road to success is not a straight line. But on an emotional level, it can be challenging to embrace the perceived obstacles and we react to life instead of responding in a way that serves us.

One certain thing is that we all do this at some level, so let’s see if you can recognize yourself…

Last week, during a coaching session with one of my clients, I had to stop her as she talked herself deeper and deeper into her problem.

She was doing her problem right in front of me, overanalyzing and overthinking, rationalizing, blaming, and paralyzing herself into overwhelm by trying to solve it from the same mindset that she had created it.

Einstein said that you couldn’t solve a problem with the same level of mind that created it.

It’s hard to believe but we become addicted to the emotions and drama of things going wrong. Your subconscious mind actually creates the circumstances for you to get your fix.

This most often originates from experiencing a traumatic childhood where fear and scarcity were at the order of the day. No wonder then that the mind is conditioned to scarcity-consciousness and held in place by thinking patterns of away-from-thinking, all-or-nothing-thinking and personalizing.

Creating your own suffering

These habitual thinking patterns are unconscious and run on autopilot. In other words, you are not aware of them, you just experience them in the following ways and thereby creating your own suffering:

Focusing on what is not working
Comparing yourself with others
Taking everything personally
Taking every disagreement as a personal attack
Blaming others, blaming yourself
Procrastinating
Overthinking, overanalyzing, rationalizing
Predicting worst-case scenarios

When you get triggered to drop your vibration, your state of being is that of fear, doubt, scarcity, feeling overwhelmed, paralyzed and powerless. The worst is, that it can feel as if is personal, pervasive and permanent.

Your brain is pumping cortisol throughout your body and the neural circuits connecting these experiences are firing and wiring them into your default thinking.

Here you have 65000 thoughts every day on autopilot, creating the same experiences, triggering the same emotions and hormones. If you have the same routine every day, then your body is physically living in the past.

Here’s the kicker. You cannot change this without self-awareness and taking ownership of your thoughts, emotions, words and actions.

You cannot change this without realizing that you are thinking your thoughts, feeling your emotions, speaking your words and taking action. Without realising that you have created your life in this way.

Without realising that you have been standing in your own way.

Fear of losing control

What is behind all of this, is the fear of losing control, the fear of the unknown, and the fear to trust. Your conditioned subconscious mind is doing everything in its power to keep things familiar because the intention is to keep you safe in your comfort zone. Even though this sounds absurd and illogical, this is how your mind works.

The irony is that a new future, a different reality, lies in the unknown because everything that is known is of the past. Venturing into the unknown means you have to step out of the comfort zone of your conditioned mind. That means letting go of control the subconscious mind won’t have that.

When you let go and venture into embracing the unknown, your state changes from negative emotions like fear and doubt to excitement, joy, and gratitude. The vibrational frequencies of these negative and positive emotions are on the polar ends of the continuum.

At first, when you step out of your comfort zone into the Unknown, your subconscious mind sees danger and wants to protect you from that and immediately something will happen to trigger you to experience fear and you pull back.

So, the moment you start to focus on what you want and what is working, and you count what you are grateful for, and you notice the abundance around you, you will be triggered to look at your bank account and see that you are short of money and all the fear will come rushing back.

Sound familiar?

The thing is that if you are not aware of what is happening in your subconscious mind and why that is happening, you are also not aware that you can transcend this.

Here’s a question for you: On a scale of 1 to 10, to what extent do you experience victim mode daily?

Transformation

We all have these experiences and their intensity and frequency are in direct relation to your level of self-awareness and the tools you have to transcend them.

When I guided my client through the process of taking ownership of her powers of creation—her thoughts, emotions, words, and actions—she was blown away. For the first time, she realized that there was nobody or nothing to blame.

I believe we create our own suffering. By becoming self-aware and taking ownership of your powers of creation, you are taking the first step toward shifting from fear and lack to abundance, joy, and peace.

Every time you transcend your victim mode and choose your creator mode, you surrender to your True Self. New neural paths become stronger. Your state of being in alignment with your True Self becomes stronger your creator mode becomes your comfort zone.

Categories: : Coach, Entrepreneur, Goals, Impact, Manifest, mindset, Self Love, Self-Worth, Stress, Success